More means merrier. Who would argue against it — threesomes are super-awesome. But nothing is more awkward that the part where you have to invite a third-wheeler into your bedroom for some little bit of triple kinkiness? Not to mention that part where you have to convince your partner that there’s nothing wrong with inviting some outside fun.
It takes a lot of trust and sacrifice on your part to lock in a threesome. For what we know, your partner may be in for a threesome, but it could be different one than the one you had envisioned.
Of course your girlfriend will be more receptive to the idea of you inviting some other dude over to help you drive her to pound town; but out of jealous probably, find it hard to entertain the idea of you bringing in some other woman to spice things up in your bedroom.
So what’s the best way to get two open minded people to agree to have a threesome with you?
Understand the risk
Threesomes have their own share of risks. If you’re committed to your partner, you have to come to term with the fact that inviting another person to your bedroom could put your relationship in a jeopardy. This is particularly the case if the third sex partner is a friend you’ll still be meeting in future.
Also, there’s the issue of putting your friendship on the line. But if threesome is a fetish you’ve been harboring, then don’t backpedal from it. When you look at it, nothing good comes without a risk. So if you’re a man or woman worth your salt, regardless of what consequences awaits you, follow this simple, step by step guide to prep your partner and invite someone over for a threesome.
Step 1: Talk it Out with Your Partner
The biggest hurdle to a threesome is NOT inviting someone to your bed, but getting your partner to agree to the idea of sharing you out with someone else.
If you’re a guy, it shouldn’t come as a surprise when your girl freaks out on the idea. She may even accuse you of plotting to cheat on her or using that as a subterfuge to jilt her for someone else.
It’s therefore crucial that you prepare yourself for the worst. You can allay her fear by walking her slowly over her idea. Introduce a topic that flows along the line of “what one sexual fantasy that you wouldn’t want to die before trying out.” It’s then that you introduce the idea of a threesome and hang in a little longer to weigh in on sentiments about it while letting her know how serious you’re about the idea.
If you’re a woman, then most likely your guy will be down with the idea before you even bring it up.
Step 2: Don’t be Insecure or Jealousy
The next biggest challenge is you. You have to come to term with the idea that the partner you invite over may pleasure your partner to a level you’ve never reached before.
And if it happens, you should be happy that your partner is really enjoying it rather than getting worked up over it for nothing.
Step 3: Focus on Making it Fun for Your Partner
Threesomes are meant to be fun. So it’s important that you forget about the complexities of having one and instead focus on the fun bit of it.
Don’t be too inquisitive, nor let your guilty conscience push you into asking irrelevant questions about fidelity. If your partner agreed to it then it’s to be reasoned that they’re okay with it.
Also, don’t try shaming your partner when you see them trying things they don’t normally do while with you. If they’re enjoying, be a vessel to their enjoyment instead of coming off as a buzz kill.
Step 4: Flow with the Tide
Routine is boring and so is routine sex. Having sex the same way, every day in the same place, with the same partner can make things appear like they’re NOT fun. You may begin to resent the sex, and one reason you’re inviting an outsider into your bed is because you want to restore a dead bedroom.
So be ready to explore. Be ready to push things to a little further. Be ready to get silly and try out new things, whether it’s simple or super-complex.
You can choose to be a little BDSM or let’s just say be ready to flow with whatever is suggested or laid out on the table without asking unnecessary questions or playing rigid.
Step 5: Focus on Your Attention
We get it, you want toe get satisfied or fulfill one of your greatest sexual fantasies. But this is one area where you’d want to be totally selfless. This is one area where you need to prove that you really care about your partner and that you’re really NOT into it for your own selfish gains but because you’re interested in restoring the sexual flame in your bedroom. Meaning all your attention should be on making it all fun for your partner.
Where it’s required that you sit down and watch your partner enjoy themselves, do it without raising unnecessary issues. Focus on that part when you loved your partner in the first place and you’ll realize that love means caring. It means that you want what’s best for your partner, and that all you care about in this world is for them to be happy and that that’s one of the moments to prove it.