merrier. Who would argue against it — threesomes are super-awesome. But
nothing is more awkward that the part where you have to invite a third-wheeler
into your bedroom for some little bit of triple kinkiness? Not to mention that
part where you have to convince your partner that there’s nothing wrong with
inviting some outside fun.
It takes a lot of
trust and sacrifice on your part to lock in a threesome. For what we know, your
partner may be in for a threesome, but it could be different one than the one
you had envisioned.
Of course your
girlfriend will be more receptive to the idea of you inviting some other dude
over to help you drive her to pound town; but out of jealous probably, find it
hard to entertain the idea of you bringing in some other woman to spice things
up in your bedroom.
So what’s the best way to get two open minded people to agree to have a threesome with you?
Understand the risk
their own share of risks. If you’re committed to your partner, you have to come
to term with the fact that inviting another person to your bedroom could put
your relationship in a jeopardy. This is particularly the case if the third sex
partner is a friend you’ll still be meeting in future.
Also, there’s the
issue of putting your friendship on the line. But if threesome is a fetish
you’ve been harboring, then don’t backpedal from it. When you look at it,
nothing good comes without a risk. So if you’re a man or woman worth your salt,
regardless of what consequences awaits you, follow this simple, step by step
guide to prep your partner and invite someone over for a threesome.
Step 1: Talk it Out with Your Partner
The biggest hurdle
to a threesome is NOT inviting someone to your bed, but getting your partner to
agree to the idea of sharing you out with someone else.
If you’re a guy,
it shouldn’t come as a surprise when your girl freaks out on the idea. She may
even accuse you of plotting to cheat on her or using that as a subterfuge to
jilt her for someone else.
crucial that you prepare yourself for the worst. You can allay her fear by
walking her slowly over her idea. Introduce a topic that flows along the line
of “what one sexual fantasy that you wouldn’t want to die before trying out.”
It’s then that you introduce the idea of a threesome and hang in a little
longer to weigh in on sentiments about it while letting her know how serious
you’re about the idea.
If you’re a woman,
then most likely your guy will be down with the idea before you even bring it
Step 2: Don’t be Insecure or Jealousy
The next biggest
challenge is you. You have to come to term with the idea that the partner you
invite over may pleasure your partner to a level you’ve never reached before.
And if it happens,
you should be happy that your partner is really enjoying it rather than getting
worked up over it for nothing.
Step 3: Focus on Making it Fun for Your Partner
meant to be fun. So it’s important that you forget about the complexities of
having one and instead focus on the fun bit of it.
Don’t be too
inquisitive, nor let your guilty conscience push you into asking irrelevant
questions about fidelity. If your partner agreed to it then it’s to be reasoned
that they’re okay with it.
Also, don’t try
shaming your partner when you see them trying things they don’t normally do
while with you. If they’re enjoying, be a vessel to their enjoyment instead of
coming off as a buzz kill.
Step 4: Flow with the Tide
Routine is boring and so is routine sex. Having sex the same way, every day in the same place, with the same partner can make things appear like they’re NOT fun. You may begin to resent the sex, and one reason you’re inviting an outsider into your bed is because you want to restore a dead bedroom.
So be ready to
explore. Be ready to push things to a little further. Be ready to get silly and
try out new things, whether it’s simple or super-complex.
You can choose to be a little BDSM or let’s just say be ready to flow with whatever is suggested or laid out on the table without asking unnecessary questions or playing rigid.
Step 5: Focus on Your Attention
We get it, you
want toe get satisfied or fulfill one of your greatest sexual fantasies. But
this is one area where you’d want to be totally selfless. This is one area
where you need to prove that you really care about your partner and that you’re
really NOT into it for your own selfish gains but because you’re interested in
restoring the sexual flame in your bedroom. Meaning all your attention should
be on making it all fun for your partner.
required that you sit down and watch your partner enjoy themselves, do it
without raising unnecessary issues. Focus on that part when you loved your
partner in the first place and you’ll realize that love means caring. It means
that you want what’s best for your partner, and that all you care about in this
world is for them to be happy and that that’s one of the moments to prove it.