You have finally talked yourself into trying senior dating sites to see what the fuss is over them. Now, that you have taken that important first step, you need some tips on using senior dating websites to assist you so you get the most worth out of it. These guidelines will prevent you from wasting time on your new journey.
If there is one
thing true about senior dating sites, it is you can’t make decisions based on
profiles alone. A tiny photo and two or three sentences won’t tell you the
whole story of a person.This causes you to create your vision of the person,
which could disappoint you when you meet them. Communicate with the person
until you get a feel for how they are, and don’t get your hopes up until you
come face to face with them.
Don’t Allow Email
to Take Control
If you are looking
for a serious relationship, the last thing you want is a potential date to turn
into an email penpal. It is good to begin with email communication, but limit
to five to ten emails. If both of you want to advance the relationship, move to
chatting, instant messaging, or phone calls to help you learn more about the
person in a meaningful way.
Talk to Them on
thing to keep in mind when using senior dating sites is to speak to them by
phone prior to meeting them in person. Instant messages and emails are okay,
but you don’t learn all you need to know about a person that way. Hearing a
person talk cues you in on qualities you find negative. You gain insight on the
person spontaneously to determine if you want to proceed with the relationship.
Don’t keep talking on the phone for months if you have an interest in
continuing a relationship.
Avoid Long First
For some people,
being bound to someone you don’t know in person for an hour can be daunting,
especially if you have no interest in them. A good way to prevent this is to
meet somewhere for a few minutes for a drink or coffee. It’ll give you an
adequate first impression in a few minutes to decide if you want to continue
merrier. Who would argue against it — threesomes are super-awesome. But
nothing is more awkward that the part where you have to invite a third-wheeler
into your bedroom for some little bit of triple kinkiness? Not to mention that
part where you have to convince your partner that there’s nothing wrong with
inviting some outside fun.
It takes a lot of
trust and sacrifice on your part to lock in a threesome. For what we know, your
partner may be in for a threesome, but it could be different one than the one
you had envisioned.
Of course your
girlfriend will be more receptive to the idea of you inviting some other dude
over to help you drive her to pound town; but out of jealous probably, find it
hard to entertain the idea of you bringing in some other woman to spice things
up in your bedroom.
So what’s the best way to get two open minded people to agree to have a threesome with you?
Understand the risk
their own share of risks. If you’re committed to your partner, you have to come
to term with the fact that inviting another person to your bedroom could put
your relationship in a jeopardy. This is particularly the case if the third sex
partner is a friend you’ll still be meeting in future.
Also, there’s the
issue of putting your friendship on the line. But if threesome is a fetish
you’ve been harboring, then don’t backpedal from it. When you look at it,
nothing good comes without a risk. So if you’re a man or woman worth your salt,
regardless of what consequences awaits you, follow this simple, step by step
guide to prep your partner and invite someone over for a threesome.
Step 1: Talk it Out with Your Partner
The biggest hurdle
to a threesome is NOT inviting someone to your bed, but getting your partner to
agree to the idea of sharing you out with someone else.
If you’re a guy,
it shouldn’t come as a surprise when your girl freaks out on the idea. She may
even accuse you of plotting to cheat on her or using that as a subterfuge to
jilt her for someone else.
crucial that you prepare yourself for the worst. You can allay her fear by
walking her slowly over her idea. Introduce a topic that flows along the line
of “what one sexual fantasy that you wouldn’t want to die before trying out.”
It’s then that you introduce the idea of a threesome and hang in a little
longer to weigh in on sentiments about it while letting her know how serious
you’re about the idea.
If you’re a woman,
then most likely your guy will be down with the idea before you even bring it
Step 2: Don’t be Insecure or Jealousy
The next biggest
challenge is you. You have to come to term with the idea that the partner you
invite over may pleasure your partner to a level you’ve never reached before.
And if it happens,
you should be happy that your partner is really enjoying it rather than getting
worked up over it for nothing.
Step 3: Focus on Making it Fun for Your Partner
meant to be fun. So it’s important that you forget about the complexities of
having one and instead focus on the fun bit of it.
Don’t be too
inquisitive, nor let your guilty conscience push you into asking irrelevant
questions about fidelity. If your partner agreed to it then it’s to be reasoned
that they’re okay with it.
Also, don’t try
shaming your partner when you see them trying things they don’t normally do
while with you. If they’re enjoying, be a vessel to their enjoyment instead of
coming off as a buzz kill.
Step 4: Flow with the Tide
Routine is boring and so is routine sex. Having sex the same way, every day in the same place, with the same partner can make things appear like they’re NOT fun. You may begin to resent the sex, and one reason you’re inviting an outsider into your bed is because you want to restore a dead bedroom.
So be ready to
explore. Be ready to push things to a little further. Be ready to get silly and
try out new things, whether it’s simple or super-complex.
You can choose to be a little BDSM or let’s just say be ready to flow with whatever is suggested or laid out on the table without asking unnecessary questions or playing rigid.
Step 5: Focus on Your Attention
We get it, you
want toe get satisfied or fulfill one of your greatest sexual fantasies. But
this is one area where you’d want to be totally selfless. This is one area
where you need to prove that you really care about your partner and that you’re
really NOT into it for your own selfish gains but because you’re interested in
restoring the sexual flame in your bedroom. Meaning all your attention should
be on making it all fun for your partner.
required that you sit down and watch your partner enjoy themselves, do it
without raising unnecessary issues. Focus on that part when you loved your
partner in the first place and you’ll realize that love means caring. It means
that you want what’s best for your partner, and that all you care about in this
world is for them to be happy and that that’s one of the moments to prove it.
There’re horrible people in this world. And horrible things happen to you when you cross paths with them. The NOT-so-lucky victim of such an incidence is a 29 year old Norwegian master student who got scammed by a new-found love she had known from Tinder for about a month.
Originally published on Abcnews, her story paints the gory details of how dangerous the murky world of online dating can be particularly to gullible women who want to lock in illegible bachelors for a serious relationship that could lead to marriage.
Here goes the backstory:
met a man she thought was her supposedly soulmate on Tinder. The man’s name was
Simon Leviev. But in a horrid turn of events, turns out the man’s real name was
Simon Hyuat, who was on Tinder masquerading as the son to a renowned Israeli
It didn’t take
long after matching up on Tinder before the two hit off. After all, the guy was
wealthy, good-looking and had all the hallmarks of an eligible bachelor. She
was immediately besotted and that marked the beginning of what was supposed to
be one of the greatest romantic stories — think prince Harry and Megan.
On Tinder and
Instagram, the man used the moniker “the prince of diamond.” This cleared any
doubt Cecilie had regarding the man’s wealth status.
They’d then start
to plan for their first date, and Leviev was the man for it. Instead of playing
it lowkey and take Cecilie to an ordinary dinner date, he’d charter a private
jet that would fly them from London all the way to Bulgaria. Of course, the
chemistry was all there, and there was some real connection that marked the
beginning of a great romantic life ahead.
Leviev had to divulge a little about his life and what it is the he does for a
living. So apart from being a scion to a renowned tycoon, Leviev had managed to
curve a life for himself by being one of the most established diamond dealers
in Israel. This meant he was a busy man who always has a tight schedule on his
The date ended,
and the two parted ways to continue their long distance relationship as they
figure out the next step. During that time, they’d constantly video-chat and
send each other love notes while talking about the future.
schedule never afforded him the time to travel to London to go and meet the
love of his life. But being the gentleman he is, he would charter a private jet
to go pick her from wherever she was to come meet her whenever he had the spare
time to hang out.
The horrid turn of Events
This was a dream come true for Cecile, who couldn’t resist falling for this lovely, god-sent man really hard. She’d fantasize about him, their marriage and the great future that awaited her after their honeymoon should he decide to surprise her with a marriage proposal in the near future. There was nothing to lose. Even if their marriage ended in divorce, she would still end up with half of his wealth — a shoo-in millionaire in waiting. Not to mention the alimony and all the perks that comes with being associated with the son of a tycoon.
And you’re right,
the only notable hurdle that lay ahead was the man wising up to the likelihood
of their relationship ending up in a divorce, and most likely coercing her to
sign a prenup.
Turns out that the
horrid shock that stared at her was far more worse than what she had at some
point painted in her mind.
The man was nowhere close to the millionaire he claimed to be, but an experienced con artist, with a criminal record on his belt. He was the real master of catfishing, and Cecilie was nothing more than his latest victim.
time, Leviev would proceed to the final stage of his plan. It was time to reap
off, having pumped in a lot of effort trying to get his victim ready.
Simple, he asked
Cecile to open for him a line of credit that he could use to book flight
tickets and conduct businesses without drawing unnecessary attention to
himself. A request Cecile didn’t have second thoughts complying with.
Leviev would go on
to explain that he needed the line of credit only for his protection, not the
money. Her name was to act as a cover and nothing else.
The request didn’t
make much sense to her but she didn’t see any reason NOT to flow with it.
promised to pay back every single penny of her money he spent. A promise he
would never live to honor.
By the end of their little affair, and before Cecile learned that she was dealing with a con artist, Leviev had already scammed her an upward of $200, 000. Any attempt to reach her money were in vain, as Leviev had swiftly moved on to target another victim.
As recounted by
her, this incidence nearly pushed her to committed suicide as she couldn’t
imagine herself falling victim to such a scam. She had to be rushed to the
hospital, where she was admitted in a psychiatric ward.
Hyuat, when contacted would then turn the table on Cecile by painting her as gold digger who was only with him for his wealth and nothing else. According to him, things went south before he had managed to repay her little loan, but having spent a hefty amount of money on her, buying her expensive gifts and taking her on vacations and costly dinners, then he doesn’t see any reason the lass would get all sour for it.